I remember this one time this white girl was telling the class how people in the deep south of USA were hella nice and super friendly and me and my black friend just looked at each other and shared a strong poc moment
I see the gaslighting, I see the status quo perpetuating itself, I see people endlessly justifying this behavior, excusing it, and telling women that how they experience their own lives in wrong. That no matter what, we don’t get to define what happens to us. Because if we do, then we are “crazy” or wrong or “too sensitive”. We should just shut up and let other people tell us how things “really” are. Because we can’t be trusted to know how our own realities have shaped us.
We’re told not to “make” men feel bad about what other men do. That relaying our stories is generalizing and condemning and unfair. We’re told it’s our responsibility to “get over it”. To internalize every single thing we are subjected to as “just the way it is” and, ultimately, our fault for existing as women in spaces. For existing in the world. For trying to make our way in that world and be treated as human beings.
We are told: don’t feel this way. Don’t think these things. Don’t express normal human emotions, like anger and resentment, about upsetting experiences. Stop talking about things we don’t want to hear about. Stop telling us we are complicit through our inaction. Stop expressing yourself in ways we don’t like. Stop making us uncomfortable about the things that go on around us that we don’t see/ignore. Don’t trust yourself. Don’t exist in ways we don’t like. Don’t exist in “our” spaces. Don’t try to live your life like it matters. Like it’s important. Like you have the right to be here.
Women don’t exist for you to approve of or to make you feel better about the shitty way the world works. We don’t exist for you at all. We exist for ourselves. And we’re going to keep demanding for our rightful place in the world whether you like it or not.
You can get on that bandwagon or you can fuck, permanently, off.
His body isn’t even cold yet and the New York times has already put out a shameful article declaring Nelson Mandela to be an “icon of peaceful resistance”. News outlets around the Western world are hurrying to publish obituaries that celebrate his electoral victory while erasing the protracted and fierce guerrilla struggle that he and his party were forced to fight in order to make that victory possible. Don’t let racist, imperialist liberalism co-opt the legacy of another radical. Nelson Mandela used peaceful means when he could, and violent means when he couldn’t. For this, during his life they called him a terrorist, and after his death they’ll call him a pacifist — all to neutralize the revolutionary potential of his legacy, and the lessons to be drawn from it.
emotional abuse is when someone does something to hurt you, and when you express your feelings, that you’re upset, they turn it around to be something you did to hurt them and they force you to apologize for it, and your feelings, like always, are rendered invalid and silenced, forever damaging the ability to trust others with your feelings because they always are used against you.
Announcer voice *in this corner we have Americas finest neo-nazis, the Aryan brotherhood and the angriest members of the KKK! And in the opposite corner we have a small brown girl that once made a joke about white people on the internet! Let this fair and balanced fight begin!*
Don’t tone police. It is NOT your right to dictate how someone should react to their oppression.
Don’t demand a detailed explanation. You’re basically asking the person to justify their call out. It’s exhausting, many resources are available, and often this is just a way to try and derail, start an argument, or discredit the other person.
Don’t get defensive. A call out is not all about you as a person.
Don’t take it personally. Calling out is not a personal attack. If someone calls you out, they’re trying to teach you something. Calling out is a way for people to educate others on how systems of oppression operate on a day to day, individual level.
Don’t attack the person who’s calling you out. That’s just fucked up.
Don’t assume the person calling you out is just “looking to get offended”. Nobody enjoys calling other people out. To call someone out, people often have to mentally prepare for serious repercussions. Calling someone out might mean starting an argument, during which many people will side with the oppressor by default (especially if you’re privileged over the person calling you out).
Understand that being oppressive is not the same as being offensive or hurting feelings. The damage you’re perpetuating is part of a larger system of oppression.
Realize thatyour intent is irrelevant when it comes to whether you were oppressive or not.
Recognize the power dynamics that are in place between you and the person calling you out.
Understand intersectionality. IE: Just because you are oppressed by classism, doesn’t mean you lack male privilege.
Know that being privileged means being oppressive, but you can work to reduce the ways that you are oppressive.
Work on oppression reduction and being the best ally you can be. The point of calling you out is to draw your attention to how you’re being oppressive, so that you can work to change it. If you made an oppressive joke, there’s probably oppressive thoughts in place (conscious or not) that led you to think the joke was appropriate. Everyone has to unlearn the oppressive things they’ve absorbed from an oppressive society. We are all taught ways to keep marginalized people in their place, but the good thing is that we can identify these things in ourselves and change. And then we can start working on dismantling the kyriarchy, yeah!
You know anon, I’ve been actually thinking a lot of existence, what it means to exist and perpetuate influence and the measure of impact from others. You believe that my sole existence makes this world a worse place. Now I find that a bit silly. First off, you do not know my entire being of existence. Currently I am only an anonymous face on the internet that blogs about social and political topics as well as a few comedic content none of which is purposely offensive to marginalized groups of people (I do apologize if anything I post happens to be offensive please let me know!). In theory, my actual human life does not really affect the world is a hugely negative way considering I’m not at the position of power that could influence such an impact. I can,and perhaps you know yourself, name groups of people that in fact do have a large portion of rule over the majority of the world that has had devastating affects on the population. So if you believe that a blog on the internet, that posts about social issues is the leading cause of the despair in the world, and you want to blame my existence for it, than you need to recalculate and reconsider your choices and try to see all the influences of the world on a bigger scale.
Shout out to my Native Americans for still prospering on land that was yours regardless of white people trying to kill you off, relegate you to small pieces of land, and encouraging drastic physical and sexual violence in your communities while still having the nerve to run with a holiday about how they’re thankful you didn’t just leave their asses to die when they got here.
In bio today my teacher told me about an experiment she did with plants. When ever she watered them she would take two bottles, yell mean things at one and speak positively to the other. Turns out the one that was watered by the negative water died. Then she reminded us that humans are around 75% water……….If negativity kills plants, what is it doing to teenagers
Can we just take a moment to realize how great that is
As a child, books of science fiction cluttered my bedroom floor,
The ones with doom days and dystopia,
Dictators and delusions.
Scared out of my mind
I use to think that mankind could never become so twisted.
Tangled older, everyday,
I feel as if now I’m reading the new world
With the same pair of frightened eyes.
You're so full of hate and ignorance yourself it is kind of sad. Did you learn nothing of MLKs teachings, you won't get anywhere being indignant towards a whole race of people, that's not how you seek change.
I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro’s great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen’s Counciler or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate, who is more devoted to “order” than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says: ‘I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action’; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man’s freedom; who lives by a mythical concept of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait for a ‘more convenient season.’ Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Lukewarm acceptance is much more bewildering than outright rejection
— Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
Little did you know, Martin Luther King fucking hated you lmao oops..